S6 Episode 12: Our Journey to Becoming Romancipated
Episode Summary
The journey to becoming Romancipated is one that is empowering and unique to each individual’s experience. No one relationship type is the “right” relationship because every person has their own sets of wants, needs and expectations. We are all dynamic beings and every partnership is a work in progress.
However, every person in a romantic partnership should feel respected and cherished. Self-preservation is key. Never forget that everybody, no matter who you are, no matter who you love, the most important person is you. You've got to believe in yourself. You've got to protect yourself. You've got to understand that having any kind of romantic relationship happens on many different levels. It happens on an emotional level, but it also happens on an intellectual level and it has to happen on a practical level.
Everyone deserves a relationship that is based on respect, trust, empathy, personal responsibility, accountability, communication, boundaries and acceptance.
Thank you to all of our loyal listeners. Use Romancipation as a resource and pass it on to those you think can benefit from our perspective. We hope you have enjoyed listening and that you continue on your own journey to becoming Romancipated.
Show Notes
It’s been an incredible ride, but we’ve now come to the final episode of Romancipation. This podcast and the topics discussed throughout have been insightful, empowering, and even challenging at times as they’ve opened opportunities for self-reflection. It’s bittersweet that this show is coming to a close.
When this podcast concept first came to be, the concepts of boundaries, empathy, respect, trust, and acceptance were of the utmost importance. This isn’t just for the role they play in romantic relationships, but for all relationships. Being able to take these ideas and put them out into the universe has been amazing.
So many people struggle with romantic relationships. Yet, these relationships drive us forward in our lives, and as humanity. No one relationship is the “right” relationship—we all have our own wants, needs, and expectations. Furthermore, we’re all works-in-progress. Understanding what these are and checking in as they evolve can help us create healthy relationships.
At the end of the day, the most important person you’ll ever connect with is yourself. That’s why self-preservation is a pillar of Romancipation. You should always protect yourself on all levels. What’s great about these episodes is you can revisit them anytime as a reference or guide to help you through your relationships.
You are dynamic, and you do have the ability to change what happens in your life. You can’t change another person, but you always have control over your decisions every single day. And, every small decision you make adds up quickly and can change your life, including your romantic relationships. If you loved these episodes, pass them on to other people you know who will love them too.
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Tired of toxic, boring, or dead-end relationships? Feeling lonely or clueless when it comes to love? Need a fresh perspective? Well, you found it! This is Romancipation, a podcast that challenges conventional ideas about sex, love, dating, and mating. Hosts Marlee and Lis offer candid and provocative advice about what it takes to find the partner you deserve. It's time to rethink your approach to your love life. Take charge and get Romancipated.
Marlee:
On today's final episode of Romantipation, Our Journey to Becoming Romantipated. That is today's topic.
Lis:
That sounds so serious.
Marlee:
It is serious.
Lis:
It's a serious topic.
Marlee:
A very serious topic. And I think that it is a wonderful way to end six seasons of some great advice.
Lis:
I mean, what a ride.
Marlee:
It's been an incredible ride.
Lis:
Yeah.
Marlee:
So I wanted to open it up and ask you, Lis, what has this experience been for you? What has being romancipated meant to you?
Lis:
Wow. Well, for me, it's meant, honestly, so many different things. I feel and I've always felt that I'm still a work in progress.
Marlee:
Yes.
Lis:
I think that we're always learning new things about ourselves and we're always changing.
And for me, this podcast and the topics that we've discussed have been so empowering. And I feel as though every conversation that we've had that I've been able to prepare for and reflect on afterwards has changed my life. It's changed the course of how I not only interact with my husband, but how I kind of go a little bit easier on myself sometimes or challenge myself in different ways because sometimes I didn't realize I was doing or saying certain things in a certain way.
And when I took a step back, it gave me a clarity that empowered me. And it's been life changing for me, honestly. I mean, I've had so much fun doing it, and I feel like the topics that we've talked about are so relevant. It's not only helped my relationship with my husband, it's helped my relationship with myself, it's helped my relationship with my children, and I'm just honestly, one, really sad that it's kind of wrapping up.
But obviously I know that all of the topics that we've talked about just go on and on forever. So I don't know. I mean, I've just loved it. I've loved every single ounce and minute of it. How about you?
Marlee:
I feel the same. I really do. I was nodding like as you were talking because I'm thinking to myself, I feel the same way. You know, when I first came up with the romancipation concept and I said to you, let's do a podcast.
Lis:
Yeah.
Marlee:
You were a great sport about it. You really, really were. And for me, the ability to actually explain these concepts: boundaries, personal responsibility, communication, accountability, empathy, acceptance, respect, and trust.
There are such important things that I think all humans need in all relationships, not just their romantic relationships. And so I do agree with you being able to talk about these different subjects and applying them to everyday very real life experiences that I think a lot of us either ourselves have experienced or we certainly know others who have experienced these types of topics. And certainly our vents, I think, really struck a chord with a lot of people.
Lis:
Oh yeah.
Marlee:
They were very personal for both of us.
Lis:
Definitely.
Marlee:
It has been an interesting journey.
Lis:
Yeah.
Marlee:
I have felt empowered in taking these ideas that have been ruminating in my head and being able to put them out there into the universe. And there were times where I worried that maybe they wouldn't be fully understood, or I wouldn't be able to fully articulate what I was thinking.
Lis:
Yup.
Marlee:
But even if I haven't been able to be as clear as maybe I imagined in my own head, I'm really proud of the podcast and what we've said and the ideas that we've put out into the romantic universe, so to speak.
I think for so many people, they struggle, Lis, with relationships and in particular romantic relationships, because we continue as a species, usually as a result of romantic relationship. So it really does drive us forward and it is a relationship that hopefully stays throughout our lifetime.
Lis:
Yup.
Marlee:
Or at least that's the goal that many people have.
Lis:
That’s the goal.
Marlee:
No one relationship is the right relationship because every person has their own sets of wants and needs and expectations. I think where Romancipation has been so crucial for me is, I agree with you, I am also a work in progress. And the more you and I spoke about this stuff, the more it reinforced in me what my wants were, what my needs were, what my expectations were.
Was I meeting my partner's expectations? Was I being reasonable in my expectations? Was I setting the right boundaries? And was I reinforcing them? Was I being respectful of my partner's boundaries? Am I constantly working on my communication skills? Am I continuously developing a trust and growing the respect that I have for my partner?
Absolutely. Am I increasing my empathy? I hope so. I really do. There were so many things you said that were like, Whoa, like light bulb moment. Amazing. You know where I didn't think of it from that perspective. So you definitely, I think, increased my empathy. Accountability, huge, huge. Personal responsibility. Again, something that I think so many people feel is so necessary, but they don't know how to articulate, it either to themselves or to their partner.
Lis:
Right.
Marlee:
So all of these concepts, doing this podcast has given me clarity. It's given me confidence. It's made me feel like romancipated individual. I always thought I was a romancipated individual. I will continue to develop and evolve.
Lis:
Yeah.
Marlee:
And as I enter each new chapter in my life, I hope that I take the lessons that I try to impart on others and actually apply them to myself. And I love the idea that you and I are making self-preservation sexy and important and something that everybody, no matter who you are, no matter who you love, the most important person is you.
Lis:
Yup.
Marlee:
You've got to believe in yourself. You've got to protect yourself. You've got to understand that having any kind of romantic relationship happens on lots of different levels. It happens on an emotional level, but it also happens on an intellectual level and it has to happen on a practical level. And when we talk about all the things, whether it's contracts or exit strategies or attraction or sex, whatever it may be, we were trying to talk about these big overarching concepts from all those different levels and perspectives.
Romancipation is a lens. It's a perspective. It's a worldview on how you're going to approach your romantic life and how you would do it Lis or how I would do it is not necessarily how any of our listeners would do it. What I hope everybody takes from this podcast is three things. One, I hope that they recognize you can re-listen to your favorite episodes.
You can re-listen to episodes that you thought weren't relevant, because sometimes something that isn't relevant at one point in time becomes incredibly relevant in another point in time.
Lis:
Yup.
Marlee:
So I hope people use this podcast almost like as a reference or a guide to help ignite something in them. The second thing that I hope people got from this podcast is that we are creatures that evolve.
We do. Sometimes more slowly than our partners might want, but recognize you are dynamic and you do have the ability to change what happens in your life. You can never change another person, but you absolutely can take control of yourself and make thoughtful, conscious decisions every day. And whether you believe it or not, those thousand little decisions you do every day will add up very quickly and it will have a compounding effect and you will see profound change and movement in yourself and in your romantic life.
The third thing that I want people to take from being romancipated is really simple. Romance is a wonderful thing. It is a gift, treasure it, appreciate it. If you find a partner, even if that partner is temporary. Appreciate what they bring to the table, appreciate what you can learn from them, appreciate what you can learn about yourself using them as a mirror.
Because I'm telling you, Lis, it's a gift, and everybody is deserving of it. There is not a person out there that is not deserving of finding another human that is willing to give them the gift of a romantic, loving relationship. So I hope our listeners enjoyed this ride. I hope that they make sure to keep listening and to pass it on, because again, the more people that get romancipated, the better off we'll all be.
Lis:
The better off we all are.
Marlee:
Absolutely. The concepts that we're talking about, self-love, self-respect, self-preservation, those are universal. And it's up to you to romancipate yourself. So I want to thank you so much, Lis, for taking this journey with me.
Lis:
Thank you.
Marlee:
And thank you to all of our listeners and everybody that has supported us and left comments and please keep giving us great reviews on Spotify and Apple and any other of the platforms that you listen to this podcast on and we truly genuinely wish every single one of you a long, happy, healthy life full of fulfilling relationships.
Lis and I want to thank you so much for joining us this week. To view the complete show notes and a recap of today's podcast, or to learn more about us, visit www.Romancipation.com. Before you go, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you can receive notifications of new episodes right when they're released.
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