FAQ
Why is it important to be Romancipated?
Successful relationships are mutually beneficial. When both parties get their emotional, physical and financial needs and wants met by being together, each individual continues to work to keep the situation stable. The moment one of the parties is no longer having their needs and/or wants met by the other, the relationship begins to erode and eventually ends.Being Romancipated is empowering. It pushes you to take an active role in your romantic life instead of being a passive, hopeful dreamer. Owning who you are as a romantic partner, understanding your motivations for a relationship and accepting your limitations can be unnerving and challenging. However, once you become Romancipated, you are in a position to achieve autonomy and a strong sense of self-worth. Achieving a state of being Romancipated translates into finding and maintaining healthy partnerships that appropriately fit your romantic relationship needs and wants.
How is Romancipation different from other advice about relationships?
Romancipation is about freeing yourself from fear, frustration, guilt, self-doubt and toxicity. It lets you clearly distinguish the difference between the “ideal” versus reality when it comes to selecting an appropriate partner or romantic situation. It gives clarity in terms of the relationship type and individual mate that will best fit your needs and wants.Romancipation is not based on traditional relationship concepts like love, sexual attraction, sacrifice, marriage, or lifetime commitment. These are outdated ideas that do not deliver what they promise. While each concept in itself has merit, you can have a very successful romantic relationship without any or all of these concepts existing in your relationship.
Romancipation is about self-awareness and acceptance. You get to decide what you are looking for in a romantic relationship without judgement or criticism. Whether you seek a partnership, companion, friend with benefits or financial arrangement for security is irrelevant. What matters is how you go about the process.
Romancipation is about finding the right type of relationship for you. It does not need to be typical or the norm. It just needs to be based on mutual, consensual agreement with the other individual and appropriately fit your needs and wants. As long as you and your potential mate or partner either share the same motivations or have ones that are complementary, the basis of a successful relationship has been created.
How do I know if Romancipation is a good fit for me?
Not every person is a good fit for being Romancipated. If you are not willing to practice self-awareness, to be honest about your motivations and intentions, or to allow your instinct to overrule your emotions, then you are not a match for this process. Lying to yourself and others will doom you into one bad relationship after another. When you are Romancipated, love is never enough. There is zero tolerance for any type of abuse. Most importantly, if you cannot learn from past relationship mistakes (yours or other people’s) then you will not find success with the Romancipation mindset.The Romancipated individual practices the skill sets they have in their interpersonal arsenal and is actively looking to add new skills that will help them attain what they ultimately want. Each time you add a new skill, you increase your chance of finding the type of romantic relationship you desire and mate you crave.
Every time you enter or exit a romantic relationship (whether it is casual or serious), you are given the opportunity to collect important and useful data that will help you with future romance-related decisions. A Romancipated individual uses the experience to further enlighten themselves about their actual needs and wants. Each relationship offers insight about your personality, desires, insecurities, beliefs, sexual preferences, moral compass, life philosophy, financial practices, communication style…the list is endless. Moreover, it also refines what you need and really want in a mate.